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"An action romance military book about a famous actress kidnapped in first chapter and remembered what her childhood friend taught her to do in this situation. Stay calm, wait for rescue, etc a few other things I can remember. Mmc is a special forces hostage negotiator in a private security firm. Across the country. She's taken to an old building and given a bucket to pee in. She convinces the bad guys to let her go outside to pee I think she tries to escape or hurt one of them. He rescues her, she's told to stay and wait and count to 10 before walking towards him"