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"An action romance military book about a famous actress kidnapped in first chapter and remembered what her childhood friend taught her to do in this situation. Stay calm, wait for rescue, etc a few other things I can remember. Mmc is a special forces hostage negotiator in a private security firm. Across the country. She's taken to an old building and given a bucket to pee in. She convinces the bad guys to let her go outside to pee I think she tries to escape or hurt one of them. He rescues her, she's told to stay and wait and count to 10 before walking towards him She's scared but remembers her lessons from him. Actress taken from work in her car. There's an old man guarding the gate. After he rescues her I think he goes to body guard her maybe"